“Other things may change us, but we start and end with family.” – Unknown
This weekend I spend time with family at my mom’s house. It’s an 8 hour drive to PA from NC and we got on the road late on Friday afternoon. Every night I stayed up late. And everyday I ate several homemade cookies.
In the past I would either be “dieting” or “off my diet” and going home would be a trigger for me to eat whatever I wanted. Now, I am more balanced about what I eat when I am visiting my mom. But I still will go for her homemade cookies because they are so good (worth it!) and I only get them a few times a year. I still drink my shakes when I am traveling elsewhere, so that gives me half of my meals. Then I will eat some of what others are having, while making protein the main choice.
I snacked on the way home, had some gas station food and chocolate as well as drive through. My body was not feeling happy from all the crappy food I put in. But now I have a choice for how I’m going to feel. My body does not feel good — but I’m not feeling guilty — I’m just feeling the consequences of eating low quality food.
I got out of the car, and went into my bathroom…at which point I had considered weighing myself to see how much “damage” I had done over the weekend. I’m sure that in the past I would have done this — and I know that many women I work with probably would do this as well. I’m not condemning it, if you can handle the outcome — but in my experience it’s best not to go there.
Let’s be honest, if you ate poorly, you surely gained probably anywhere between 5-7 lbs. Most of this is due to sodium, chemicals, sugars and extra carbs — resulting in water weight. Although a few pounds of body fat could have been gained.
The point is what purpose would it serve for you to step on the scale and therefore confirm, “Yes, I gained weight. I’m fat. I’m a bad person. I have no self control. That’s it! On Monday I’m going on a diet!’
Isn’t that how the conversation would go in our heads? Or something similar to that?
Could we not cut ourselves a little slack, and be a little accepting of the circumstances? Okay for 4 days in a row, we spent time with family enjoying some food, staying up too late, and not getting a workout in. But that does NOT make you a bad person. If you claim that “bad person” status, more than likely you will just continue to stay in a rut of eating bad food and not exercising because that is what we are telling ourselves.
Or we could stand up and say — “Hey I’m not feeling too hot. My body is used to high quality foods and supplements and I feel so much better when I fuel it the right way. Although being lazy for a few days feels good, I know getting back to my regular workout schedule will make me feel even better and my energy will come back! I had fun with family, but boy I can’t wait to get back into my routine!”
This is a much better mindset and sets us up for success. We want to achieve balance so that we can feel better as soon as possible!
I think this is a really good practice to start now, when you have and “off” weekend. The holidays are coming and there is a lot of room for over eating and under exercising. So take the time now, when you are really feeling good, to keep the habit going strong! That way when the holidays get here you can have a few treats and meals and not be completely thrown off track that you throw in the towel.
I’m wanting to help you get through the holidays by maintaining, not gaining. And I have created a FREE Workout Challenge for the month of October! You can learn all about it and put those extra calories to good work by building a better booty! You can register for the FREE workouts here:
Remember, to Maintain, Don’t Gain this season you just need to keep your emotions and your reacations to “mistakes” in control. You are NOT a bad person, and it may take a few weeks to get back to feeling like “you”, but you know what to do to make yourself feel better. You know what foods and exercises that make you feel good. If you don’t – you can find a bunch of recipes here from my Clean + Easy Cookbook.